I realised for you, unfortunate people, who have collected up their fair share of Toxic “Friends”, probably don’t have an effective way of getting rid of them. So as a follow up to my toxic friend article, here are 2 ways to leave them in the dust!
1. The Straight-Forward/Blunt Break Up
Practice what your going to say. When making a clear break like this, the speaking aspect can be hard. So sacrifice a bit of your time, so you have the words down to the ‘T’. You might want to start with “I’m sorry to say, but there has been something off between us, which has caused us to grow apart in distance. And I feel that it is better if with cease to be friends”, or something along those lines. Don’t make it to personal, more like closing a business deal, just tell them straight. When conversing with your so-to-be ex friend, don’t let them interrupt, if they do just shut them down, immediately! Cause as soon as they begin to chat with those sad puppy eyes, telling you how sorry they are and how they are gonna change, you will be right back here in a few months time doing the exact same thing. You have to set some boundaries, just to prevent any set backs like her suddenly popping up to you on Snap.
2. The Ghost Them Break Up
Slowly and gradually stop to hang out with her. Not so much that she starts to notice, though. Stop initiating convo. The person your turning to ditched, probably isn’t a really close friend who talk to really often anyway , so it won’t seem as out of the blue. Try to avoid making plans, just come up with an excuse like “Gotta baby-sit” or “So much homework, sorry” or even “Can’t come, grounded, Mum and Dad are getting on my case!!” Just do whatever you can to get out of the situation. By doing all these things with carefully planned precision, you will manage to Ghost your friend successfully, without a bumps along the way.
In my opinion, it’s better to cut them out sooner or later, so much more effective and efficient. There is no point letting them suck all the happiness and light out of your life, leaving you in a big, daunting black hole. Always put your feelings and intentions. first and above all others.
And like always, if you guys need any advice on whatever topic, email me at sisters@theyellowflower.co.uk
